Hey everyone! Below are my goals for my fourth year of Radical7even.
1.) Take more risks & take advantage of opportunities. This goal is a very bold one for me. I’m not usually a risk taker. I tend to think more about the cons involving a risk than the pros. When I do that, I talk myself out of taking a risk. I need to think more about what I gain than what I can lose.
2.) Stay focused on my goals. I know that this goal might sound crazy but sometimes I get distracted & forget what my goals are.
3.) Become whole mentally, spiritually, & emotionally. Mentally-think more positively & develop more faith in God. Spiritually – becoming closer to God & study more his word (also understanding the word). Emotionally- being more open w/ people & letting them in; healing from past hurts & opening up myself to love again; letting go of negative people.
4.) Work on my time management skills. I suck at time management & need to learn how to master this skill. I’m more of a go w/ the flow person. I still want to remain that way but have my time management under control.
5.) Learn how to bake desserts from scratch w/ minimal shortcuts. I know how to bake but I usually take shortcuts. For example, when I bake cheesecake I use Kebbler’s graham cracker crust. When I have tried to make graham cracker crust from scratch but it doesn’t agree w/ me. Lol!
6.) Enjoy my life & be happy. This goal is recycled. I have a bad habit of being Ms. Work & no play. I try my best to take care of my responsibilities & always think about the cost of things. I know that there are things that I can do to enjoy myself that are budget friendly.
7.) Get my driver’s license. This is a recycled goal. I received my permit over the summer so now the next step is to get my driver’s license.
This past Wednesday, I decided to do something different. I decided to stop at a church for bible study. There are so many churches in between and around the 18 miles it takes for me to get home (they don’t call it the Bible belt for nothing). I was excited because bible study and Sunday school can be two of my favorite parts of church service. I love the conversation and to hear how another person interprets the bible and to see how they incorporate it in their life. For me, it is very informative and helps me with my Christian walk.
So, I went into the church randomly and it was a small group and they were very welcoming. OK, a good start. Then the pastor began to talk and for me it went downhill quick. It was less on the bible scriptures and more on ISIS, capital punishment, homosexuality. I am not saying that those topics doesn’t have a place in the church, it just wasn’t what I was looking for a midweek pick up.
I could look at this in 1 or 2 ways. 1. Yea, I won’t be going to any bible studies in the near future, especially not at that church. 2. This wasn’t what I was looking for but I will continue to search on. I chose the latter. The only way I can find what I am looking for is to try out new things. I can’t let one decision be my end all.
I equate this to my job decisions. Every job that I take on may not be exactly what I am looking for but it gets me closer to what I want or don’t want in a career. The only way I can find things out about myself is trying things out.
I encourage anyone who is contemplating do anything different, in any area of their life to give it a try. It can only be considered a failure if you choose for it to not to be a learning tool.
Bible Reference : Ecclesiastes 11:4-6 (NIV)
4 Whoever watches the wind will not plant;
whoever looks at the clouds will not reap.
5 As you do not know the path of the wind,
or how the body is formed[a] in a mother’s womb,
so you cannot understand the work of God,
the Maker of all things.
6 Sow your seed in the morning,
and at evening let your hands not be idle,
for you do not know which will succeed,
whether this or that,
or whether both will do equally well.
Keep Pushing with Optimism,
In our lives we struggle with purpose, the meaning of success, what happiness is. I am designed with a need to help others and use my vast talents to do so. I enjoy making the difference in people’s lives. But, sadly, I will not always do so.
At first, I was crushed when I didn’t have the talents needed to help a certain I child. I felt like I had failed him. I also didn’t know of anyone else who could help him better. I questioned myself and asked God to show me what I could do to become better.
As it often is, his answer was not what I would have expected. He didn’t change anything about what I did; instead he opened my mind to see something I hadn’t expected: not everyone wants our help or our type of help.
Instead of letting the parent judge me, I realize the difference between what I do and what she wants. I can only guide her to what she wants; because she does not want the kind of help I can give. And this happens all the time in the real world. Some Friends don’t want our advice. Addicts don’t always want to get clean. Sinners often don’t confess.
We cannot make them change nor can we make them accept our help. We must accept that. It is not a failing on our part. The choice is theirs. By learning to accept this, my heart is at peace. Now I just have to make sure that lesson stays with me.
For many of my formative years my closest and dearest friends were males. I had very few girls that I considered friends. In fact, in high school I literally had 2 girls I considered my friends. I couldn’t bond with other girls, they were jealous, insecure and mean….or so I thought. I realize now I myself was unhealthy and attracted unhealthy relationships in general (from romantic to platonic). It wasn’t until I was in my senior year of high school and really trying to find my identity in CHRIST that my view became healthier and I began to seek out and accept real female Friendship. Ive written before about Heavenly Inspired Sisters ( HIS ) and how this group of women changed my life, but the true power of that Didn’t truly hit me until my HIS getaway this past September.
See in Birmingham, I’m surrounded by testosterone, I’m the only woman in a house of boys and men….and ive struggled to find female friends. So, to have an entire weekend devoted to bonding, goofing, encouraging and prayer from a group of women is absolutely precious and prized. I enjoy the leadership and partnership of my husband, but there’s also power in another (positive, God-centered) woman speaking into your life.
Only another woman can understand the Struggles Intimately that I face, Pregnancy loss, esteem issues, emotions…just to name a few are just a few topics That other women have helped me successfully journey through.
This is why I’m excited to say, I’m finally moving forward with taking the HIS concept and making it a movement. A sisterhood created for both types of women. Those who understand the value of sisterhood and those who have yet to experience it.
- I will go on daily walks. My newest doggie, Lady, will be there to push me along.
- I will ask for help, because that is something I constantly need. Thank God for my support system.
- I will stay connected with my HIS in some way every day. These ladies are my lifeline.
- I will encourage my kids to pray from the heart instead of routine prayers. I want them to develop that personal relationship with God that makes life so full of love.
- I will say no when I need to, because nurturing my household is my primary calling. I learned how to say no last year. I want to make sure that I do not get overloaded anymore.
- I will teach my kids to take on more responsibility that I have in the past. There are things that they could be doing for themselves, that I have just been doing for them.
- I will successfully take care of my family during my husband’s next deployment. Being apart is difficult, especially with 7 kids at home. I am proud of what Jeff does and I want him to be confident that I can manage things here.
Hey Young World!
Yesterday was Lennon’s baby shower and boy was he showered with love! I had such an incredible experience and awakening.
When I was pregnant with Daniel, I prayed for the other side to be involved, to be active and for him to get the opportunity to know them well. Unfortunately, during pregnancy that didn’t happen and I know his dad takes him to see them, but I don’t know how well he knows them. My baby shower for him, had my mom and sister in attendance. Every one else was a friend. I had probably close to 30 plus people there and I was so blessed.
With Lennon’s shower, I sent out fewer invites. Most of those who came last time no longer live in the state. So I’m not going to lie, I was unsure who would come. Some unforeseen issues also stopped some of the HIS from attending and I knew that early on. Because I’m military almost every event I’ve had has always been filled with more friends than family. So when I heard many couldn’t make it I was unsure who would actually come.
What I forgot about was this time is different. My husband’s Family did come, the other side of a complete whole and it meant a lot to me. I must admit I’m not used to having other people offer help and support. …so I’m not quite good at it.
I just have to remember my support system isn’t so one dimensional any more, that’s a definite answered prayer. Remember one of my goals is to focus more on my husband and boys. I now realize I need to expand my focus and work on including both sides of my family.
So glad that my boys…are truly our boys and I’m not doing this alone.
Lennon’s baby shower showed me that my prayers have been answered.
I started this journey wanting to push myself out of my comfort zone, take a few “risks” and prayerfully learn some much needed lessons along the way. I am proud to say that being part of the Radical process has helped me pray bolder prayers, walk more in faith and envision more for my life.The past radical year has been both challenging and rewarding and I am excited to work towards some new goals for myself. I am definitely ready for some changes in my life and I am trusting God to equip me with everything that I need for the Radical year ahead. This radical year the overall them for me will be consistency. I would like to work on my goals often enough that it becomes a habit and is so natural that whatever it is that I have set out to do is now my new normal. Please keep me in prayer as I work on the following
1. Journaling- I consistently journaled almost daily from age 8 until about age 25. It was always very therapeutic for me and something that always proved to be a wonderful coping skill. I would like to get back to writing and recording my thoughts. I recently bought a new journal and I am excited to make it my Rad 7 journal.
2. Regular healthcare visits- Now that I am in much better health I never go to the doctor. It’s ironic that I used to see specialists at least twice a month ,practically live in Urgent Care and have regularly scheduled visits for various things but now I don’t even schedule regular run of the mill check ups. I plan to go down the list of the necessary healthcare specialists and schedule my yearly exams for everything.
3.Yoga/Meditation- this is a recycled goal. I am intrigued by the concept of mindfulness and have had several unsuccessful attempts to learn more and put it into practice. I would like to devote more time to practicing yoga and mindfulness in my life. Ultimately I would like to join a yoga class.
4.Finish books- I love to read ! I love to read so much that it is not uncommon for me to read 5-7 books simultaneously. The problem is that I never finish an entire book and then when I start a new book I forget about one that I was previously reading. I know that I can get much more out of my reading if I focus on one book at a time. I have started a new book and don’t plan to begin another one until I have finished it.
5.Accept more invitations to spend time with friends and initiate making plans.I am a homebody. I enjoy the company of other people but I equally enjoy my own company. I always have a great time when I visit with friends. I would like to make sure that I value when people reach out to me and ensure that I maintain the connection by making plans and following through. I have slowly started to do this and would love to keep it up!
6.Save more/Second income. I would like to have an additional source of income outside of full time work. In the next radical year I would like to be more financial stable and have a savings account worth shouting about. In my quest for balance – I would like to make sure that I seek out opportunities that will be genuinely fulfilling as opposed to “working two jobs” I am learning that more money is only really “more” when it doesn’t subtract from other areas of your life.
7. Cook more. Another recycled goal of mine! In addition to having a serious diary food allergy , I am a picky eater. I have been blessed with a sister who is an amazing good and it makes me want to learn how to make more of a variety of foods. I have a few cookbooks and I also have The Food Network App on my Kindle- I would love to at least try to make a new dish once a month and continue to add to the recipe list as the Rad year progresses.
As always thank you for accompanying me on this amazing journey,
One day at a time,