Better late than never. ;D *Kelly


Bi-monthly goals review:

1) Social: I will strengthen my relationships with others.

I’m doing a great job with keeping up with facebook lol. I occasionally message/text. I haven’t had an authentic phone conversation or written a letter as planned. I didn’t even get around to writing my HIS blog last week. This is assuredly an area for improvement.

2) Emotional: Disengage in fruitless efforts.

I find that my work is more efficient now that I’m focusing on the important tasks. I do what I need to get done in order to keep myself on track with deadlines. My ‘others first’ attitude is not something I want to lose, but there is an appropriate time and place for it. For example, I am not going out of my way to say… visit a parent in jail after they avoided me for 3 weeks prior to being locked up. I know this hypothetical person would like a letter for the judge. They’re not getting it. I have other things to do—like helping ensure the children are safe and have everything they need.

3) Spiritualspiritual: I will find a new home church with my new family.

I just realized I missed an opportunity to try the church down the road today. Last week Nathan thought of it, but an hour too late. It is easy to lose track with the baby and Nathan being sick and all. I’ll wish myself better luck on this goal next week.

4) Environmental: Garden for food.

Composting is fun! I love that all my veggie trimmings are no longer going to landfills. I have a system of giving the compost to Nathan and he’ll add it to Pam’s bin. At some point this week I need to add a layer of dry stuff (like leaves), buy some worms to toss in, add water, and aerate it with a pitchfork. Well, I’ll put the worms in after I’m done with the pitchfork out of consideration lol. It’s gross, but my plants will thank me later. I’ve been good about watering them every day, or asking for someone to help me do it if I’m too busy. Cooking with my fresh herbs is so tasty! The kumquats are getting big and starting to turn yellowish. I also added sorrel –a leafy herb that tastes just like a sweet lemon. I’m going to grill fish with it when it gets bigger. J I’m rocking the socks off of this goal.

5) Occupational: Find a balance between work and family life.

Coming home at 5pm every day is not going to happen. I have too much going on, and get way more work done when I’m alone at the office. It’s the perfect time for me to zone out of socializing—which I love—and delve into my to-do list. The balance I’m finding is just to block off Saturday for pure family time. I had the best time with Elias yesterday. I was the only one caring for him, and we bonded even more. I could already feel the difference. I love him the same, but actually spending a whole day with him has helped me understand all of his little noises, needs, and cuddles all the more.  I am BLESSED.

6) Intellectual: Increase my understanding of topics pertinent to my counseling interests.

Ha! Maybe if I had some of those books you can listen to on an IPod.  I have zero time for reading. This was not a well thought out goal.

7) Physical: Be mindful of what I consume.

This is going well, aside from the little candy bars at work. They are so hard to resist when the coffee energy wanes. I must be strong lol. In related news, I lost a few pounds since I started Warrior Yoga with Bob from the Biggest Loser. It is intense, but Kim and I have a fun time pushing ourselves and mastering new poses.

In other news:

The gestational surrogacy idea has become a reality. I’m still in the first stages of paperwork and such. There are still many things that could go awry, but I’m hoping everything keeps going well. I found a couple that I adore and will be amazing parents. One dad-to-be is a doctor and the other will be a stay-at-home dad. They live in Miami and have a wonderful family full of children they have helped raise. They are at a great place in their lives to expand their family, and I am happy to have found a couple I mesh with so well. I know it sounds strange, but I am excited to be pregnant again. I will not reveal any identifying information about this couple, as this is a private matter for them I’m sure. I just want to include everyone in on this experience as much as possible. I feel blessed and am glad to be in a position to give this couple something so very meaningful. I get to help create 2 families—mine and someone else’s. I can’t get over how amazing gestational surrogacy is. Just to clarify that is someone else’s biological baby that I get to carry. Science is incredible. Anyway, I must conclude this post before my chubby little man awakes. His afternoon naps aren’t usually more than an hour (for me).

Much love to all!


  1. #1 by Renee N. Chaffin on October 14, 2012 - 9:20 pm

    Hey we still have a long way to go for each one of our goals, but it seems that you are kicking most of the goals behind lol. Even if not you are the gs is such a radical goal in and of its self. 🙂 miss you much and can’t wait to see the rest of your goals mesh out

  2. #2 by starsinhereye on October 16, 2012 - 2:03 am

    I am so excited about your surrogacy idea! It is so wonderful for you to give that much of your self to some one else! It’s a trully lovely goal! Lots of love to you!

  3. #3 by danigeorge25 on October 16, 2012 - 11:30 am

    Congrats on all the success of your goals!! I use to listen to Joyce Meyers CDs on my way to work, really helped me have a healthy mindset..maybe u can find some counseling books ok CD or tape.

  4. #4 by Venus on October 23, 2012 - 4:34 am

    Hey Kels!! Sees like you’re making some progress! Continue to work on them! Yay to you’re doing good on FB! lol! That’s a start! I’m glad you’re more efficient at work and that you’re prioritizing! I hope that you and Nathan get to visit the church close to your home before the yr is out! Let us know how ya’ll like it! I’m glad that your garden is going well! Yeah worms are can’t touch think it’s great that Saturday is family time! It seems like you and Elias got some good quality time! I hope that you make more progress on goal 6! Congrats on losing some weight! I know how hard it is to resist sweets at my cash register are nothing but cookies, brownies, and candy. So the temptation is there! i often go to the buffet at work and get the,I really can’t help it! WOO HOO to the surrogacy!!! I don’t think it’s weird to be excited about pregnancy! Wow, being a surrogate mother is going to be so awesome for you! Love you! ~Venus

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