Reflections of 2015 ~Venus

Hello everyone! This year overall wasn’t bad. It had its ups & downs of course.

Low/High: The Transition of Moving

I moved twice this year. The first move wasn’t by choice & the second move was my choice. I moved back to my old apartment building in April. The apartments that I was living in were doing renovations to all of the apartments. The second move was in August. I moved out of my old apartment complex to a new one. It felt weird to move to new apartment. Even though I moved twice (September of last year & April of this year due to renovations) in my old apartment complex, I lived there since Sept. 2010.  I’ve had a lot of roommates over the years! I’m like I have my own bathroom & a walk in closet at my new apartments.   I had a little bit of a tough transition moving to a new apartment. I had to find people to help move my stuff & a storage unit. I got a deal on the storage unit that I paid for but the guy that I rented from hasn’t gave me back my deposit.

I’ve contacted him several times about my deposit & I haven’t received it. =( I moved out of my old apartment July 31st. I lived w/ my dad for two weeks & let’s just say that there is nothing like living at your own place! It was the first time that I ever lived w/ my dad. I got bit by bed bugs at my dad’s apartment & it was really bad! My legs & arms got ate up! I was so happy when I moved into my new apartment in August! Lol! I had two roommates (Marissa & Emilee) move in the apartment November. They are  ok so far. My original roommates that was suppose to move in August never moved in. I don’t know why.

High: My Birthday

I turned 28 yrs old this year! I can’t believe that I’m almost 30 yrs old! Lol! People often ask me when am I going to have children & get married. It will happen whenever it happens! I’m not in a rush! I’m not about that life yet even though I desire to have kids & get married one day.  My mom & I went to the Island Wing Company for my birthday. During the week of my birthday, one of my female friends  & I went to the movies to see Straight Outta Compton! It was a great movie!

High: My Christmas & Thanksgiving/Low: Christmas Eve

I had a good Thanksgiving & Christmas this year. My family & I ate Thanksgiving dinner at my Aunt Mary’s house. We ate dressing, turkey, ham, collard greens, cupcakes (my uncle’s girlfriend baked them), pecan pie (I baked it), & cranberry sauce for our dinner. My Aunt Pearl& her son Ronald (they live in VA) came to my mom’s house for Thanksgiving. I was happy to see them! The day before Thanksgiving, two of my aunts, a few of my cousins, & I went out to eat at Applebee’s. I also was able to visit one of my cousins w/  my aunt from VA & a few of my cousins. I was happy to have majority of my family together for Thanksgiving. I also was happy that one of good guy friends (Bobby) came home for Thanksgiving. My mom drove me to my friend’s hometown (which isn’t far from my mom’s house) so I could meet up w/ my friend. It was the first time that I’ve seen my friend since 2013. We’ve been friends since high school.

My mom & I was together for Christmas. My mom cooked a lot of food! We had baked chicken w/ gravy, cranberry sauce, dressing, collard greens, rolls, Mac & cheese, ham, chocolate cake, sweet potato pie, banana pudding, & potato salad. My mom invited company to join us for Christmas but they weren’t able to make it. I was happy that I was able to watch the marathon of Power on STARZ at my mom’s house. My mom gave a gift for Christmas. I gave both of my parents a Christmas card & $10 for their gifts. My mom & I visited my dad the day after Christmas. We brought him a plate full of food from Christmas & his favorite dessert banana pudding. On Christmas Eve, I received news from someone (she contacted me) about a guy that I’ve been talking to for a couple of weeks. I didn’t like the news that I received & I became really upset.

High: Fun Events this month

This month my Goddaughter Ja’Kiyah turned two years old. She had an attitude on her birthday! Lol! Her birthday party was at Shakey’s this year. Her theme was Doc McStuffins. This month I went to my job’s Christmas party w/ my mom. We had a good time. I didn’t win any prizes this year for the raffle. =( Last Saturday one of my friends & I went to the movies to see Concussion. It was a good movie! I was hoping that CHIRAQ & Creed were still showing at the movies but they weren’t. =( This month I also attended at Christmas party at the clubhouse of my apartments. I won a gift card to Best Buy! I met new people (Conrad, D.C., Gabriel, & T.C.)  & laughed a lot! The biggest prize that someone won at the Christmas party was a scooter. I was expecting real food at the party. Lol! I was a little disappointed that the food was pizza, cookies, & cupcakes. Lol!

I forgot to mention that I went home for my church’s Christmas program on Dec. 20th. After church service, the congregation enjoyed a dinner at the church.

Low: My Summer

My summer this year was rough. I didn’t work at summer camp this year w/ my job. I was expecting to work at my hotel job during the summer but that didn’t happen. Business was slow there. I was expecting to find a job but I didn’t get anything. I applied to a few places & had a few job interviews. One of the job interviews I had was a professional job through AmeriCorps. I was on unemployment & that was very helpful! I was cut off from my food stamps in May but I still had money on my food stamp card. I was grateful that I had money leftover was on my card so I could buy groceries. I disliked that  the cable provider for my apartments changed. We had Charter & switched to Pavlov Media. My tv wasn’t picking up the HD channels & I missed my shows! =( My tv only picked up the HBO & CineMax channels. I had 10 channels. I bought an antenna to try to fix the problem & it didn’t work.

Around August, I received a notice from the Department Labor stating that I was overpaid & had to repay the money that I received. The overpayment was due to a commission job that I had during the summer. I didn’t earn ant money from that job. I found out that a commission job was considered as employment the hard way.  I wrote an appeal to Dept. of Labor & send them documents (everything had zeros on them) from the commission job. I also had to go through a hearing on a teleconference call w/ a judge to present my case. Long story short, it was found that I didn’t commit fraud but I had to pay back the Dept. of Labor. Smh!

~Low: Losing a Friendship

I also lost a friendship during the summer over something that I think was petty. It really took a toil in me! I cried six hours about that friendship & became depressed. It sucks to lose a friend. My female friend and I never had an argument before hat situation happened. Overall we had a good friendship. Her & I were good friends in high school. We lost contact after high school & got reconnected a few years ago. I still think about my friend every now & then. I miss her! It still hurts that we aren’t talking. It doesn’t hurt as much as it did a couple of months ago.

~High: Last Doctor’s Appt./Blessing with Medical Bill

In January, I had my last checkup appointment from my surgery that I last year. The doctor told me that I healed up pretty nicely! I was so happy that I didn’t have to go back to the doctor. I’ve been going back & forth to the doctor since September of last year. It’s been a year since I had my surgery (my surgery was on Oct. 16th last year). In January or February I applied to charity program through that hospital to pay for my medical bill. I got accepted & my medical bill from my surgery was paid for! Praise God! I’m still paying on anesthesia bill (it’s seperate from the hospital bill). I plan on having that bill paid off next year.

High: Mother’s Day & Father’s Day

I took my mom out to eat for Mother’s Day at a soul food restaurant. We had a good time! My mom & I also went to one of our church’s members (an elderly lady) house to eat. On Father’s Day, my mom & I took my dad out to eat (it was at the restaurant I took my mom to for Mother’s Day).

High: My Best Friend’s Birthday

My best friend’s birthday was in June. She turned 29 yrs old. My best friend, a few of her friends, her boyfriend, & I went to dinner at O’ Charley’s. We also went to a casino in Montgomery. I’m really not into gambling but I still had fun at the casino.

Low: Getting up early for work

Anyone that knows me know that I’m not a morning person. Lol! During spring & fall semester of this year, I had to get up between 5a.m. & 5:30a.m. for work. I had to set multiple alarms to get up. It was a struggle for me to get up in the morning time!

Low: Resigning as a director of a program/High: Gaining experience as a director of a program

Earlier this week I submitted my resignation letter for the director’s position of the Mamie Reese Scholarship Fund for my sorority. I’ve been the director of the program for four years. I built the program from the ground up. I had no blueprint. All I had was a description of the director’s position. I had to do a lot of research about scholarships & had to create an application. I had negative emotions such as fear, self doubt, & unworthiness. I couldn’t my had done the program without the help of God, friends, & my sorority sisters. I’m proud of myself for doing something that was uncomfortable & building something from scratch. It was bittersweet to walk away from something I built. I’m grateful & thankful that I’ve had the experience.

Low: The ending of Empowermoments/High: Being stretched as a writer & ministering to other women

During the summer, a blog (Empowermoments) that I’m writer on ended. I’ve been writing on the blog for over a year. The founder of Empowermoments felt that the season for the ministry had ended. Some people that were involved in the ministry  wasn’t pulling their weight. I was really sad about Empowermoments ending. I’m grateful that I’ve had the experience  of being a writer for the blog. It really took me out of my comfort zone! I’m also grateful that my posts (also the other writers of Empowermomemts) touched the lives of other women.

Low: Being exhausted from a second job/High: Having a second job

Earlier this year (around February), I picked up a second job    at a hotel as a housekeeper. It was my first time that I ever worked as a housekeeper. It was rough! I worked at  my job on campus Monday-Friday and my second job on Saturdays/Sundays.. I was exhausted throughout the week! I was happy to have extra income but it came w/ a price. Around April I got moved from working as a housekeeper to helping with breakfast w/ my co-workers from the front desk.  I didn’t get as many hours as I did before & my paychecks were a lot less. I worked at the hotel from February to May. I was expecting to work at the hotel during the summer since I got laid off from my primary job. My manager told me that she would contact me if she needed help  but I didn’t receive a call back. I stopped by the hotel a few times in May to check to see if I was on the schedule & I wasn’t.

I didn’t quit my job at the hotel but I didn’t return either. Lol! I assumed that my manager didn’t need me so I never checked back in with the job. I probably should have. That would had been the professional thing to do right? lol! I also went through a lot during and after the summer so the hotel job went to the back burner in mind. I stopped by the hotel this month to return my work shirt & give my manager my new address. I left a note for her at the front desk of the hotel.

High: My friends

I have an awesome bunch of friends! I received gifts from my friends (via the mail) & I loved them! I had a few visits from my friends (my guy friend Demetrius, my HIS Algem, & my friend/former roommate Kathleen)  this year. I’m always happy to hear from my friends whether it’s by social media or phone. My friends & I had a secret Santa gift exchange this year. We had to guess our secret Santas! My guess of my secret Santa was wrong. My secret Santa was my friend Pam. I received a Curls Blueberry Bliss control paste (it’s like an edge control) & two storage bins. The storage bins were pink & purple (my favorite colors). My friend Pam sent me & our other friends beautiful customized cross necklaces.

High: Winning a gift card to Sephora from Swift Ministries

Earlier this year, I participated in a giveaway that Swift Ministries was having on Facebook. I answered a question right & was in the drawing for the gift card.

High: My TV Shows/Low: Having to wait until next year for new episodes of my shows

Anyone that knows me that I love tv shows & Lifetime movies! Lol! Majority of my shows are on a hiatus until they come out w/ new episodes next year. I enjoyed watching  The Wiz Live (a special on NBC), the Book of Negroes (a special on BET), The Game, RoseWood, Empire, Sleepy Hollow, How to Get Away w/ Murder, Being Mary Jane, Gotham, Love & Hip Hop Hollywood, Once Upon a Time, Quantico, Scream Queens, Black Ink, Black Ink Chicago, Wild N’ Out, The Fosters, The Real Housewives of Atlanta, The Haves & the Have Nots, Welcome to Sweetie Pies, Flex & Shanice, Ballers, 2 Fat 2 Fly, Grey’s Anatomy, & Raising Whitley. I was upset that I missed a whole season of Pretty Little Liars this summer! I didn’t miss it on purpose! One of my favorite shows (The Game) ended this year. I was really upset about it! I’ve been watching The Game since day one. The Game started out airing on the CW. He got cancelled after three seasons & got picked up by BET a few years after it got cancelled. I was one of the fans that signed a petition online for The Game to come back on tv! Yes, it was that serious! Lol! Once The Game got moved to BET, it was very different. It wasn’t as much of a comedy that it was before. After a few season of the show being on BET, two of the main characters (Melanie & Derwin) played by Tia Mowry Hardict & Pooch Hall left the show. Two new characters replaced them (Kira & Blue) played by Jay Ellis & Lauren London. One of the main characters (Kelly) got reduced to a guest role, she left the show for a while, & then she came back for the later seasons. The last episode of the final season (9th season) ended on a high note.

This year on Grey’s Anatomy Dr. Derek Shepherd died. He died a hero but I did cry! Lol! I think I cried more when Dr. Sloan died. I hate when my favorite characters die on tv shows that I watch! I wasn’t sure how I would like Grey’s Anatomy without Derek but it wasn’t so bad. Another show that I was upset that ended was 106 & Park. 106 & Park was my show! I cried when the show had it’s final episode. I liked that BET brought back the old co-hosts (Julissa, AJ Free, Terrance J, Rocsi, & the new hosts BET had for a while but didn’t stay long lol) to be on the final episode.

This month The Wiz Live aired on NBC & it was awesome! The cast of The Wiz included Mary J. Blige, Amber Riley, David Alan Grier, Queen Latifah, Elijah Kelley, Uzo Abuda, Stephanie Mills, Shanice Williams,  Common, & Ne-Yo. The acting, singing, costumes, & dancing were on point! The Soul Train Awards (it aired on BET & Centric) was awesome this year!  The show aired this month & was hosted by Erkyah Badu. The show was good from beginning to end! All of the music artists that performed did a great job! Some of the artists that performed were Tyrese, R. Kelly, Jazmine Sullivan, After 7, Jill Scott, Andra Day, Bobby Brown, Tevin Campbell, Boys II Men, Fantasia, Brandy, Erykah Badu, Cameo, Erica Campbell,  Jeremih, Lion Babe, Tasha Cobbs, V. Bozeman, & Kenny “Babyface” Edmonds My favorite segment of the show was the tribute to Kenny “Babyface” Edmonds. I didn’t know that he wrote so many hits!!! I also enjoyed the Billboard Women in Music  2015 that aired on Lifetime this month. The women that received awards were Demi Lovato, Lana Del Rey, Kelsea Ballerini (she sings country music), Lady Gaga, Missy “Misdemeanor” Elliott, Loretta Lynn (a legend in country music), Selena Gomez, Brittany Howard (lead singer of Alabama Shakes), Tori Kelly, & Fifth Harmony. On a side note: I loved the addition of Lance Gross on Sleepy Hollow! I also loved that Missy Elliott with Katy Perry performed during the halftime show of the Super Bowl this year.


~Written Thurs. Dec. 31 , 2015

I hope that next year will be a better year for  me! Have a Happy New Year everyone! God bless!





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